In a quandary as to what mental health moment to share with you in the midst of the Jolly season, I thought of doing an article on SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), which is a common disorder shared repeatedly amongst some of us humans year after year during the winter months. SAD is a treatable disorder.
But, then, there was this man who, when I arrived at our NAMI office on E. Vine on a cold and windy afternoon about 4 o'clock p.m. –probably in his mid-30s or so, having no hat, gloves and just a light jacket, working to fix a bicycle he was using as a sort of moving van. "How's it going?" I said. "Would be better," he said, "if I could get this bike fixed." The bike, as he described it, was being converted into a moving van of sorts; with a makeshift trailer loaded with some belongings, including a rolled up rug. I said, "Moving – not the best this time of year under the best of circumstances." After that amazing statement, I proceeded into my office. As I worked, I could see the man continue to work for quite a time on that bike. I thought to invite him into the office for a hot chocolate – he was gone. But there on the sidewalk was the empty trailer still attached to the seat part of the bike; the seatless bike, possessions and man were gone.
That man has been in my thoughts ever since and being more than a little upset with myself that I did not offer help, but I need to thank him, and be grateful – grateful for reminding me to count my blessings.
It is said gratitude is a common thread through many religions and philosophies. Cicero reportedly called it the “mother of all virtues.” Greek philosopher Epictetus said: “He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.” And Charles Dickens shared a similar sentiment with his oft-quoted phrase, “Reflect upon your present blessings – of which every man has many – not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.”
Good advice – being grateful for what we have and not mourning our have-nots has human benefits–it improves our well-being–our mindfulness. It inspires humility, they say.
Regardless our circumstances in a world of have-nots, rules and mandates, perhaps we can find something in every day to be grateful for. Wishing you gratitude during this Holiday season and a Merry Christmas.
Submitted by
Dodie Melvin, Executive Director
NAMI KNOX LICKING COUNTY OHIO
namiklcohio@embarqmail.com
740-397-3088
