Bethany Flanagan/News Jana Shira holds a photo of her daughter, Karri, who died in a car accident in 2016. Shira told the News she uses memories of her daughter to keep that relationship alive.

Bethany Flanagan/Mount Vernon News

Jana Shira holds a photo of her daughter, Karri, who died in a car accident in 2016. Shira told the News she uses memories of her daughter to keep that relationship alive.

 

MOUNT VERNON — Writer Erma Bombeck once wrote, “On Mother’s Day, I can think of no mother more deserving than a mother that had to give one back.”

Mother’s Day can be a wonderful day for many women, filled with celebration, honor and love. But for mothers of children gone too soon, Mother’s Day can be extremely emotional.

“Whether it’s her first year, or 10 years, it can be very, very difficult,” Kathy Wantland, bereavement counselor at Hospice of Knox, told the News. “A nice thing to do is just to remember. To say, ‘I was thinking about you.’ … You don’t have to say a lot, or say anything.

“Just be there … be there to listen.”

Advice given by grieving mothers for those who may know someone who has lost a child includes: Don’t be afraid to ask questions; remember the parents on special days (like the child’s birthday, anniversary of their death or Mother’s Day/Father’s Day); let the parents know you are thinking of them; be patient, and kind; be an active listener; and share your memories of their child.

For many of these moms, all they want is the chance to share memories.

“They want to be able to talk about their child,” Wantland said. “To have that opportunity to open up and share.”

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Bethany Flanagan: 740-397-5333 or bflanagan@mountvernonnews.com and on Twitter, @mountvernonnews

 

 

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